Monday, September 20, 2010

Thoughts

So right now I should be doing homework, I mean it's 2:30 in the morning and I still haven't done my Latin nor sent my project notes to my group so that the blonde guy can make up the power point.  My mind and heart are just not into doing those things right now.  Instead I'm sitting here and contemplating my life and myself and whatnot.

I was browsing my facebook and looking through old pictures, seeing all the good times I have had, all the friends I no longer speak to, how my body has gone through times of being really skinny but I never see myself that way.  I think my issue tonight is that I'm no longer comfortable in Oxford.  Out here I can't really be myself without being judged.  I stress over the fact that my clothes never fit in, that people judge me for wearing white even though it's after Labor day, for not following the boring styles of the city, I stress over looking too out of place, of being too fat, of blending in and not standing out in good way, it's not that I'm unhappy here but at the same time it is.  I feel insecure and lonely but at the same time I like myself and don't want to hang out with basically anyone I know in town. What's funny is that as much as I get sick of Vegas and feel trapped there at least I can be me there. Nobody looks at you funny if you have piercings or crazy colored hair or skimpy clothes on. Vegas really can be a place to feel free and I miss that. I mean in Vegas I felt like a hot girl, whether or not people looked at me that way doesnt matter because that's just how I felt. I mean I was cocktailing and being told a million times a day how beautiful I was (mind you it was either by old sweet people or drunkies but still it felt good lol).  I don't feel that way out here, I feel like people see a sign on my forehead that says "NOT SOUTHERN" so they disregard me, not wanting a friend or girl who doesn't fit some dumb ass mold.

I just wish I had more time for me.  When I take time to relax I end up regretting it because I have so much stuff to do.  I need a minute to breath. I wish I had time to go on runs and just work out and de-stress.  I don't want to go back into work, I really don't want to see those people again, but I also don't want to ask my dad to fully support me, he shouldn't have to, I'm 23 and should already have graduated and been taking care of myself. Maybe I'll just take out a personal loan so that I can not work and just focus on my classes and have less to worry about. It would help because working on Wednesdays is really killing me because I have tests on Thursdays and with work I basically don't have time to study for them because I get home late. Maybe I'll ask my dad if it's ok if I change to just working weekends for a while while I'm taking so many classes. Idk. I have to figure out what would be best for me.

I think things would be better if I felt comfortable with how I looked.  I need to lose weight and at this point I feel like I'm going to have to be basically not eating in order to do that.  To save money and cut calories I think I'm going to just finish the juices I have in my fridge and start only drinking water. Then I'm just going to cut out pasta's and eat fruits and veggies. I wont cut out cheese because I like it too much so I'll be getting my fair share of calories from that. Once I start loosing weight (which freaking better happen) I'll feel a lot better. I'm always happiest when I'm skinny, and by skinny I mean so much so that other people get nervous that I need to eat, as in like 115lbs. I haven't been that thin for like two years but I'm gunna get back there because I miss all the cute clothes that I have that I'm too fat for right now grr. On top of that I'm going to pester my mom until she finds my freaking extensions and then I'll make her send me them and my heater thingy and I'll buy some of the bonding pieces online and I'll either put my extensions in myself or have my mom come out and do them for me (yeah we may not be hairdressers but we watched Chris do them enough to know how to do it ourselves). Once I'm back to being skinny with long, beautifully full hair I'll look more like the girl I feel like inside. Screw these bitches and assholes out here...I know what makes me happy and I'm going to just do it! And part of that will be getting blonde highlights again because I just have to have my blonde!

Well now it's 3:30 basically, I've wasted an hour of my night crying on the phone with my mom because I'm so stressed and writing this and yelling at my dogs for being annoying and loud and just getting on my nerves and now it's really just time to get my fucking homework done. I doubt I'll be getting much sleep, if any tonight but it is what it is I guess.  All that matters is graduating and this semester may be killing me but it'll be worth it in the end when I'm 21 credits closer to graduating. Hell three of those credits should be finished sometime in the next two or three weeks I think (as long as I don't fall of schedule that is!).  Well if you found this post pathetic then I'm sorry but try putting yourself in my shoes- 7 classes, a job, bills, two dogs to take care of, and all of my best friends not living in town anymore. It sucks, I have every right to bitch.

Love and Kisses,
KABO

Sunday, September 19, 2010

blah

Well things in my life have been crazy.  I've been doing well in school which is all that matters to me in my life right now honestly.  Work was out of control on Friday and if I didn't need the money for bills I would not go back. It wasn't the people because they were all very nice to me, but rather my coworkers. I was busy and there was miscommunication between my manager and me (or rather NO communication from him to me) and how he reacted was beyond wrong. Basically I think I am going to start looking for another job because I don't think that is the kind of environment that I want to be a part of. Idk maybe I'm overreacting and everything will be fine when I go in again on Wednesday.  For now I'm going to make notecards up and memorize everything about that fucking menu so that I don't really have to talk to anyone for any reason other then the bare minimum. I don't trust anyone there anymore and I really don't know if I ever will, it's like that saying, give the people the rope and let them hang themselves.  I gave everyone a chance and their true colors came out, I don't care if you are stressed out, so was I but last time I checked I wasn't treating everyone there like shit.

On a different note, my friend Dusten came into town and it was so nice to see him. Rufus absolutely ate him up, like loved him so much that he wouldn't leave poor Dusten alone and I had to put him in his box so that he would calm down (which didn't really work). It is so great to catch up and talk to someone who is on the same page as me with how he feels about life. It seems like lately I've been gravitating towards friends with the same outlook and shedding those friends who are still immature and whatnot.  Funny though, apparently Dusten was told that his ex (also my ex "best friend") was being cheated on by her bf, who Dusten was also told doesn't really even like her but just keeps her around for some reason.  I don't know what the truth of the matter is and it doesn't affect my life in any way but I find it a bit funny because she is such a hanious, selfish, bitch that it would almost be karma getting her back if that were the case. Like I said though, it really doesn't matter to me.

So on to much more interesting things...if you read this COMMENT it! I mean I know I get a reader here and there so let me know what you think about whatever I have to say, well I guess only if it's not a super mundane post that it.

How do you feel about being a vegetarian?  For me, I hate that animals get killed so harshly but that just feels so far removed from me that it's hard to use that as a reason to not eat meat.  What really gets me is how I feel when I eat meat compared to how I feel when I don't.  These days I feel just as full, if not fuller, when I eat a salad as I used to when I would eat a steak. Taking meat out of my diet is hard but so worth it in the end. Yeah I cheat every now and again, but I ALWAYS regret it because it gives me the worst stomach ache. It's really hard to feel guilty about eating a salad so yeah. Ok I'm kinda not making sense so I'm gunna say goodbye now and maybe bring this topic up another time that isn't 4am.

Love and Kisses,
KABO

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Another day, Another damn I'm tired!

So it's after 10pm and I still have a shitload of stuff to do.  I'm justifying writing this because I'm boiling water for dinner...a girl's got to eat right?

Good news of the day-

1)I got a 106 on my mythology quiz last week...but it was really graded wrong so it's only a 102 but I HAD to tell my teacher because I don't need any bad Karma from keeping a grade I didn't deserve!

2)I saw my adviser and a bunch of my credits that I didn't think would transfer did so by the end of Spring semester I'll have over the 124 required to graduate, only thing is that I wont be done because I have some required classes to do over summer but whatever.

3)I just may go to Venice this winter for an English class with my adviser and her husband (who was one of my profs last semester). They are just really cute, sweet old people so if that works out financially then hell yeah it's gunna be great!

4)No matter what my dad said he'd go half with me on my passport which is awesome cus that means I can go get that as soon as I have a few minutes to spare, hopefully sometime next week.  Once I have a passport again the world will be my oyster! Yeyah!

5)I think I'm about done with my bibliography for my CLC 317 class, which means that I can forget about the paper for a few days before I start working on the outline. As much as a pain as all of this is I have to say that it's nice to have deadlines so that I don't leave the whole thing till the last minute.

Other news/topics of discussion- 

Well I find out my grade on my Latin test tomorrow, hopefully I don't have a heart attack if it's not great.  Talking about my heart, lately I've been having palpitations and dizzy spells...I'm beginning to think it's how my body now deals with stress which is not a good thing!  I really want to write more but my dinner is done so it's time to get back to school work (which means I need to finish watching the movie for The Onion Field and then read for 352 and mythology!)

Monday, September 13, 2010

Is the semester over yet?

So I have been over school since before this year's classes even started and I really wonder how I'm going to get through it! Seriously things better fly by.

Today I was tremendously busy- had a test this afternoon so I got to school early to study for it, had class, had the test which I'm not too sure how I did but I don't think I failed so I guess that's all that matters, had a meeting with my professor, had to go to the bank, had to get my car registered, had to run to the grocery store, came home and had time to eat, do the dishes, and vacuum before heading out to a meeting for a project, had the project meeting where my teammates haven't even finished the book yet, came home and started researching for my bibliography that's due on THURSDAY and that I can't find like anything for ugh, need to now find time to do a biology assignment, read the next section in my novel for English 352, shower, and get to sleep. Tomorrow is about the same pace as today! FML I'm so over this shit!

Life would have been so much better had I been able to be an English major and an English minor...or just not had a minor at all...I'm so nervous that tomorrow when I go see my adviser to look over my graduation request she's going to like tell me I'm super behind and gunna be stuck here FOREVER. All I want to do is graduate, move to NYC and live with Heather, have a fab job in publishing, not worry about bills every day, and have time to relax every now and again. Let's start a countdown to the end of this semester...it'll have to be in weeks for now cus I thin that doing it by classes would be too depressing...so 11 weeks (including this week) of school left before finals! Wohoo...three down already! Now the last possible class I could ever take here would be August intersession which has finals on August 14, 11 months and one day from now! I'm hoping to be done with classes by then but if something happens and I'm not then at least I know that they wont have be for longer than that! Technically though I need to be done with my last class during second summer session because that ends in July which is good because my lease is up here on August 5th. Well keep those fingers crossed for me! 

Love and Kisses, 
KABO

ps- no idea why that last paragraph is double spaced but that wasn't my doing!

Saturday, September 11, 2010

I'm spacing bad today!

So first of all I want to say that I have an "official" follower and idk if you are someone I know or some rando but it makes me pretty excited lol. It's just nice to see that someone other than my mother is reading my daily (well sometimes daily) posts!

Ok so at work this morning I only had three tables and basically made no money which sucks but I guess it is what it is. I totally was spaced out for the first table and basically forgot to ask them EVERYTHING that I was supposed to, like whether they wanted fries or grits, how poached the one lady wanted her eggs, if they wanted a biscuit or toast, and whatever else. I only kinda messed up on the second table and I totally kicked ass on the third...I blame it on the fact that we didn't have any customers last week and that I was still sleepy lol. Next week the Vandy game is at 11am so we are going to be closed which means I only have work Wednesday and Friday nights so hopefully I make a killing on those nights to make up for not having a Saturday shift.

So when I got off work I totally forgot to go pick up flash cards to study for my Latin class so I ended up having to go back out and pick them up. I brought George for the car ride and he was soooo happy, didn't bark at all! I was on the phone with my dad though and he gave me bad news, my cat has a tumor in his mouth and to remove it would cost a grand. The vet is apparently out of the country so it was just like a receptionist who told my dad that and he has to go back in a week and find out the full story from the vet. I'm not happy, I love my Sgt Pepper so much and I really hope that it's not something serious.

So since I have gotten home somehow the day has just slipped past me. I just spent the last so long trying to figure out my graduation application and on one hand it looks like I'll need to take 10 hours during summer school/winter intersession but on the other it could be a lot more if it has to be only English classes or only classes over the 300 level. Ugh idk but it better just be those ten credits cus that's nothing.  I could be done with school by the end of July which would be perfect cus my lease ends in August. If it's more than those classes then idk what I'm going to do because I don't know how I'll get through all the credits and out of here in the next year. I really regret all the time that I have taken off of school and all the credits that I could have taken but didn't or the classes that didn't transfer or whatever. Idk it's super confusing for some reason, my brain just isn't working I don't think. I emailed my advisor so hopefully she gets back to me soon and helps me figure out what the hell is going on with my credits.

Well my Rebs play Tulane in a half hour, so I really hope we kick some ass. I'll actually edit this post after the game to give my reaction to whatever the outcome is. Can't wait for the game next week cus now that I don't have work I should be able to make it to the grove and maybe even the game if I can still buy a ticket. Dusten is coming into town and Josh is thinking about it so that's pretty exciting.

Love and Kisses,
KABO

Ok so we WON! Yay! The first half was amazing, I finally see why we asked Masoli to come play with us, he made some really good moved out there on the field for sure. I was very disappointed by the like two seconds that Nathan Stanley played and just did awful in, I'm hoping that it was just cus of the shoulder injury that they kept saying he had.  Then they like changed the channel the game was on and I couldn't find it and I missed a bit of it and I'm not very happy about that...once again showing I'm spacey today cus I didn't think to look up the channel online lol. The third quarter was BRUTAL, I was so scared that we were going to mess up and repeat last week's loss but we came back strong and smart in the last quarter so I was very happy about that. Overall I still want to see a little bit more from our defense, want Stanley to play more often but only if he plays like the did last week which rocked, and I don't want us to lose our momentum after halftime like we have seemed to done the last two games. Hotty Toddy bitches! So happy.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Slowly catching up

So I have decided to start making a weekly list of everything that I need to do...so much stuff that I actually didn't even finish a ton of shit this past week. The good thing is that I'm slowly catching up with it and hopefully after this weekend is over I'll be all set on things being done and I'll be ready to start a whole new list for next week, which hopefully I'll do a lot better on. One of my biggest priorities though is studying my ass off for my Latin test on Monday. We took a practice quiz today and OMG had that been the test I would have gotten a big fat F on it!

I have work at 8am tomorrow and I'm really hoping it is busy, apparently they were busy this afternoon for lunch so fingers crossed same happens tomorrow so that I can make some money. I did ok tonight but my manager left before tipping me out! I'm not happy about that but I guess it isn't too big of a deal as long as he takes care of it first thing in the morning. But yeah next week I need to register my car and pay my lawn dude so I really need to make good money.

Tonight I want to go to bed like now but instead I need to shower and then do some of my geology homework cus I just had to take one extension out on this class and I am not fixing to take out another one (on it or the bio class).  Oh but guess what, I picked up my graduation application today so I have to get that filled out and then I'll officially be on tract to graduate at the end of next summer! Whoot whoot! I'm so ready to be done with school and starting a real life!

Oh I never said anything about meeting with Dr Cole again, basically he brought me around to meet some other people...like the Chancellor who now knows me by name! Hell yeah lol, he's actually not that tall, just a tad taller than I am lol. I'm going to be meeting with some committee or something in two weeks to discuss racial issues on campus...I'm kind of interested to see if I'm gunna be the only white person there, but even if I am I'm sticking to my feelings and standing up for all the white students who have been labeled "racist" in the past few years!

Well that's about it for my life. Do me a favor and keep my friend Lisa's baby Dylan in your prayers, he's in the NICU and not doing well. I'm really scared for him because he's not getting better. Lisa is a phenomenal girl and doesn't deserve this to happen to her and her husband.

Love and Kisses,
KABO

Thursday, September 9, 2010

So busy!

Well I haven't been on here in a while because I have just been swamped and even now I don't have time to write much so I'll just have to be brief about my life.

School is pretty much the same.  Lots of reading. Made a 104 on my first quiz of the semester. Really need to focus more on my Latin but I'm so burnt out with language classes that I don't really care. Need to pick up a graduation application or whatever it's called. So done with school and wanting to move on and with how busy I'm gunna be with reading and writing and research this semester I'm guessing it'll just fly by.

Work has been SLOW. I mean I had two tables the other night! I blame that on the rain, people in Oxford think they are going to melt or something when it rains so they don't go out. I think tomorrow we are booked so hopefully I get some really fun people who tip well. I do have to say that I love everyone I work with so far, Chef and Steve put together a good bunch of people.

About the first Ole Miss game...well I'm glad I didn't pay to go to it...what a disgrace! Though I have to save I'm basically in love with Nathan Stanley and hope he beats out Masoli in getting play time, he at least earned it last week.  We'll see how the game goes this weekend, I'm hoping well. 

My boys are just amazing, they like to wake me up in the mornings and they are just the sweetest things ever. I'll have to post some pictures soon.

Other than that things have been ok. Bug guy sprayed today.  Have to register my car next week so hopefully I make some money to do that tomorrow.  Heather said she may want to live together next year when I move out to New York which would of course be fabulous because she's my sister and she already knows her way around the city, plus then dad can hopefully spoil us with new furniture or whatever.

I promise I'll get more into details when I have time.

Love and Kisses,
KABO

Thursday, September 2, 2010

What a day!

So last night my insomnia once again hit me and I couldn't sleep and it sucked! I should be ready to pass out but somehow I'm not, which isn't a bad thing cus I have a ton of homework to do still! Today has been such a crazy day though.

Classes were ok. My Etruscan art class was hilarious just because I was so tired and the people wouldn't stop analyzing this one funeral urn, saying the dumbest things because they obviously didn't do the reading! I don't know why my prof didn't shut them up! My English class was ok as well, went by pretty fast. I can't wait for next week because on Thursday we are going to do some writing exercises! Finally, my mythology class was good. Took our first quiz and of course I didn't finish reading the last like five pages of the third chapter that we had to read and guess what, there were five questions on it! Just my luck right! Well maybe I got the extra credit right and still got an A, if not she drops the lowest quiz score so I just can't mess up on anything else. All in all classes were swell today.

When I got out of class I talked to my lovely best friend on the phone for a while and she just brought so many smiles to my face. She may be over two years younger than me but she is just amazing and I love her and miss her so much!

Once home I decided that it was a lovely day to bring my puppy on a walk at the park, which we did and it was nice. We probably did about two miles or more which wore him the heck out lol. On a sad note though, we invited Evil Ashley to join us but her grandpa had like just died so she wasn't able to join us. I felt bad for her, but what's really weird is that today was the anniversary of me finding my grandpa passed away in the house before school.  I can't believe so many years have gone by and I miss him so much still but at least I know he's watching over me and my mom and sisters.

Finally I got some awesome news when I got home, my amazing friend is in labor with her second child, a little boy named Dylan! He's a bit early and probably gunna be small but I'm so excited that he's coming to join us in the world! I hope everything goes well and that by the time I wake up tomorrow there are some pics of him online for me to look at!

Love and Kisses,
KABO

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Just smiling :)

So right now I should be stressing out because it's midnight, I have class at 9:30 am, I haven't showered, and I have a test tomorrow that I haven't done all the reading for.  I'm not though, I feel really calm and I think it's because I have had a pretty good day. Part of it is that I get to come home every day to the most perfect and wonderful boys in the world! George and Rufus just make me so happy, their hugs and kisses are the best and their smiling faces warm up my heart more than I can explain.

I worked tonight and it was long but good. My boss was being a bit of a dick for a while but by the end of the night it was cool. I think he just gets like that when we get busy, his way of dealing with stress. Nobody complained about anything tonight with me so yay! I made good money and had a fun time. My co-workers are all really great, unfortunately though one girl put in her two weeks notice because she just can't handle taking like 24 hours and having two jobs, I don't blame her but I'm sad she wont be with us much longer. Oh one kind of cool thing that happened too was that at the beginning of the night a photographer came in from a local magazine and took pictures of Winter and I with Chef and Steve for a piece they are doing on the restaurant! I kind of wish I had known that was going to happen because I would have really done my hair and makeup nice instead of casual like it was but oh well lol.

Classes this afternoon were ok, nothing exciting to discuss there, can't believe it's only the second week, I don't know how I'm gunna get through it.  Maybe work and my babies and mom coming to visit in a month (hopefully) will make it all fly by but whatever.


Love and Kisses,
KABO